A day, a week, a decade..

A day, a week, a decade.. it’s all the same if I spend it right, no matter who I am with. And if I do, unless it’s eternal, I crave closure.

Not because I can’t do without that person, or because I miss them terribly, but simply because I am a ribbon guy. I like to gift-wrap my memories with a nice ribbon and store them in my head as a happy moment of my life. So that when, after a few years, I meet them, or think of them or something reminds me of those times, I have nothing but warmth in my heart, tears in my eyes, or just a smile on my face.

The lack of closure makes me question everything about that memory. Was it real? Was it honest? Did I do enough? What is it that I don’t know? Should I apologize? Was it out of my control? Are they doing okay? Did I hurt them? And the list goes on.

I know a lot of you will say, ‘Let it be, it’s not worth your time’. But hey, it once was. What changed? I don’t know.

The purpose of this write-up is clear: it is my humble request to one and all, never deprive someone of a closure. No matter what. Not everyone has the strength to move on with half information, and even if they do, it is the worst way to wrap a relationship up. Causing anxiety, pain, and discomfort can’t be a parting gift, can it?

Life is short. We are lucky to meet some beautiful and not-so-beautiful people along the way. Both have their place in our lives, as we learn from them all. No matter who they are to you, relieve them, yourself, and the relationship of anything that’s left hanging.

Remember, you never know whose day, week, or decade you’re screwing with.